The beauty of being a coach is that I really have the ability to make a difference to people, I enable them to reassess their goals and help them along a path to achieving them. Ultimately, I help people realise a life that is happy and they enjoy – it is easy to see just from that why I am so passionate about what I do.
But that wasn’t the deciding factor into me training as an NLP coach.
That came as a result when I was dealt the blow that I had breast cancer.
I lost track of the emotions and thoughts that went through my mind – anger, fear, frustration, sadness, how will this affect my family, my work, will I lose my hair, will I lose my breast? All these thoughts would rush through my head at a million miles an hour on repeat for what felt like hours, and, for anyone who has experienced cancer or a serious illness, from the point of diagnosis to actually having a treatment plan in place can seem to take forever and has few support outlets for you to actually out-pour and assess what is happening to you as a person.
Treatment, whilst gruelling, doesn’t actually give you a great deal of time to consider how you are feeling inside. You are swept along in a current of appointments, treatments, surgeries and you know that life is going on around you, but you are in a little protected bubble.
Then you are given the great news that you are in remission, you are free to go back to your life and take your place in the big wide world once more. BUT, and this is a big but, so many things have changed. Your family have adapted and roles have changed, your work will no doubt have covered your role so is there a place for you and do you even want to be there, friends are still by your side but the dynamics invariably will have changed, but, most importantly, you will have changed. For most people, their entire outlook is different and there is a conflict between the you you used to be, who you are now and the you that you would like to be.
Why is all this important?
Well, I was asked why I became a coach and who would be my ideal client. As I mentioned above, being a coach is the most amazing thing, I help many people from all different walks of life rebalance their lives and that is wonderful.
As for my ideal client – that would be anyone that has been diagnosed with a terminal illness such as cancer, whether at the beginning or the end of that journey. These clients are the ones that I know, from personal experience, have the most to gain.
For me, my family and other cancer warriors I met on my journey, it was one of the scariest and confusing times. I want to help both men and women who may be unsure about their new identity, this new version of them and want to reassess their life choices to positively embrace the amazing new version of themselves.